When we bother about the development of school, we find for example, that my father, born hundred years ago, learned as foreign languages in school Greek, French and Latin. Naturally he learned his own language in word and writing, and he was perfect in grammar in all those languages. I myself, born in World War II, had to learn English, because I lived in the German area, which had been occupied by English soldier after the war. Then I learned Latin, later, after school, French, Spanish and the basis of the Tibetan language.
We now breed children, which are often unable to learn, unable, unwilling, without motivation.
How does that occur? What about the schools? Are the teachers so bad? Do we need more money that the children get better conditions, for example a meditation room, a swimming pool, a bed in school for each pupil to rest after each strenuous class period? Do they need, as we have in Germany in some kinder gardens, a chauffeur to bring them into school, from there to speech therapy, to movement therapy, to riding therapy, and the intelligent ones to learn Chinese language?
Why children in former times, sometimes under very bad conditions, after the World Wars in Europe, without shoes, the father died in war, nothing to eat, gathering wood to have it a little bit warm, enjoying care packages from USA and other countries, had been able to learn and our Children are unable? What is the reason?
The reasons for this development are the modified behavior’s of the parents, in this case more of the mothers.
In former times parents were parents. They set the rules in the house and determined the education. Father and mother loved their children, but differently than today, both parents had been over the kids, they had gone more steps in life and had a grown-up perspective. Because of being more experienced in life, they set rules and laws, and the child normally accepted that.
So they lived like a triangle with all sides equal long: father and mother on the same level, higher than the children, the child on a deeper level, which is appropriate to children.
Nowadays we have these parents … provided, that there are parents and not only a mother, which want to be friends of their child. When I want to be a friend, I have to be on the same level. So the parents (more the mother) descend to the level of the kid. In such case, the child looses orientation, in which direction to grow. The mother tries to make all, she thinks, the kid would like. The result is that the development of the kid comes to a standstill; it remains on the level of narcissism.
The next step of malformation is that the mother (or the parents or the mother and her intermittent companion) wants to be loved from the kids. She then goes one level under the kid and stabilized the step of narcissism. The kid now is fixated on the level of a fifteen month old child.
In that age a child is not able to see the mother as a person, who is separated from the kid. In that step of development, for the child mother and child are one person, and mother and world are there, to please the child and fulfill all its wishes and dreams. When the mother is not able to fulfill all wishes, the child would have the wish to kill her, so furious it gets, but in that age, it is unable to do this.
The third step of this more and more common malformation is the following: because the child is not developing psychologically, the mother fells into a symbiosis and feels one with the kid. Now both are in a trap. There is no direction of development, all happens on the very early step of fun. The indispensable steps of adequate frustrations and healthy challenges are missing, and the kid fails to a little despot.
The results of such development are children, which stay on the age of fifteen month, thinking, all persons are only there, to please the child, life is to do only, what the kid wants to do, there are no borders, all, what is, is for the private pleasure.
At home, the families have a miraculous nanny, more for boys: That is the PC. This apparatus is like heaven for the kid, and savior for the mother. The child can use it for hours, in the night, the PC is always available, it is like an umbilical cord, is like a breast full of milk. Without doing anything, pictures, play, music, stimulations and impulses fall into the kid, and they make it happy, important, busy and occupied. The kid forgets time and room, it avoids all frustration and it is always ruler of the situation.
When such a child now comes to school, it is immature and unable to learn, because all the steps, a child has to go through, are not developed. The child never learned to develop; it only was fixed on the narcissistic level and bound on those plays on PC and his task was, to make the mother happy and give her soul and life meaning.
In a narrow sense, the kid never learned to play. And the kids, which stayed in family, never learned an appropriate social behavior, never learned to have social contact to other kids, never learned to play.
There are three steps in an adequate human life: The first step is to play, the next is, to learn, the third is to work. When one step is missing, the other cannot develop.
Sitting on the PC is no play, it is a drug, it makes dependent. It is the starter drug to a not responsible, unworthy human life. Gerald Hüther, a German researcher of brains, writes in his books, that the PC changes the brains of children (more boys) so tremendous, that mankind will probably not survive longer than hundred years. Mankind survived, because persons always had been social, we now breed such antisocial children; we never had in such quantity. We never in history had such an increase of sociopaths, as we have now in the western world.
The result of such a misuse of the kids through parents is that the children are no longer ripe to learn. When they come into school they are like babies, unripe, not willing to learn, not able to learn. And the mother is symbiotic bound to the kid, and all criticism, a teacher makes on the kid, hurts the mother, and she does all to make the teacher bad.
Babies cannot learn in school. Babies have a right to be educated. The steps, a kid has to make, are well known.
A baby has nothing to search in school. It has to develop in the right way, then it has to play, also appropriate, in nature, with animals, with the elements of nature, with other children, in other families. So it develops. Then it is able to learn.
One of the most dangerous steps is homeschooling, as far as it is made only in the home which the own kids and under avoiding of other contacts. Mothers like it, because it stabilizes the symbiosis. And as a justification they tell, that homeschooled kids are better in the subjects. That may be, but they sweep under the carpet the whole social learning, friendship, encounter with the opposite sex, comparisons, rivalry, first romantic passion and more.
A mother is a mother, and she should be never more for the kid. A mother is no friend. All kids have only one mother.
A teacher is a teacher. He or she can expect that a child is able to learn and wants to learn. Otherwise a child has nothing to search in school. It will develop to a narcissistic brat and stay his (or her) life long in “Hotel Mama”.
So we can try to change instructions, but it will not help. The reason, why children no longer are able to learn, are to search in the house, one grew up, not anywhere.
And the conditions of the teachers … that is a wide field, where we also can find a lot of false behavior…
Observations of a teacher, who educated 43 years in Germany children of different age and in different schools. (The word “kid” is used intentionally in a special sense).
Submitted by D. Hannan Sr.